Friendships and relationships are crazy things. We search and search for people that we find to be similar to ourselves. Whether we're looking for a best friend or a partner, we constantly try our best to form connections in order to feel a little less lonely.
And let's be real here: we're all a little lonely until we find someone who understands and accepts us as we are. This is not an easy task. Some of the loneliest times of my life thus far have been spent surrounded by "friends," going out every night, and self-medicating with alcohol or other inhibitors. I had convinced myself that I was happy and popular, but I knew I was lacking purpose and support. The only time I was laughing was when I was drunk, but I was drunk all the time. When I decided to cut frequent alcohol use from my life, "friends" dropped like flies. The people I had once spent entire weeks with were now difficult to come by even once a month. We didn't connect on anything other than partying. Eventually, I saw this as a solution rather than a problem. The situations I had put myself in were holding me back. This is not to say that the people I was hanging out with weren't wonderful people, but they did not add anything to my life. They didn't drag me down, but they also did not push me to be better. I was essentially stagnant during these times, which in and of itself is toxic to my potential. I don't regret these times in my life, but rather see them as teaching experiences. The things I did were just distractions that taught me a lot about myself and who I wanted to become. Since cutting down on the time I spend partying, I've found I'm a harder worker. I am more focussed and happier surrounding myself with people who are working as hard as I am. I set goals more frequently, have a more positive outlook, and push myself to try new things far more frequently. No one is going to tell you who or what is toxic to your potential, you instead have to discover it for yourself. Life is too short to waste time on people who don't add anything to your life. If you are not overwhelmed with love, support, and happiness due to the people around you, it may be time to reevaluate. Surround yourself with people who push you to be better than you were yesterday. Find the people who believe you are capable of the things that are nearly impossible. Invest your time and effort into those who reciprocate that time and effort. Very few people reach intense levels of success without some type of support system, and achievements are so much sweeter when you have someone awesome to celebrate with.
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